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The Do’s and Don’ts of Divorcing a Narcissist
Even the most amicable of divorces can be stressful. When a soon-to-be-former spouse is a narcissist, divorce can become a high-wire balancing act. The good news is that with planning and preparation, the process can be smoother.
Understanding Narcissists
While everyone is different, narcissists tend to have similar patterns of behavior. Knowing these patterns and how narcissists often have low self-esteem under the bravado can provide a guide for navigating your divorce.
Narcissists are unending holes of need: They need to be the best. They need attention and adulation. They need to always be the winner. Divorcing doesn't fit with this narrative, which often means they seek ways to punish or blame a former spouse.
For narcissists, relationships are often more about use than love. They tend to follow a cycle:
- Idealize
- Devalue
- Discard
Idealizing usually comes in the form of love bombing. A type of seduction, love bombing can feel heady for the target and may make them feel like they've met their soulmate.
No, TikTok Doesn’t Need to Know About Your Divorce
Social media is a wonderful tool for us to share important life events with friends, family, and strangers. It allows us to connect to loved ones and celebrate milestones when we can't be together in person.
One life event I advise my clients not to share on social media is divorce. There's almost no upside and considerable downside to advertising the end of your marriage on TikTok, Instagram, or any other social media platform. Liberating as it can be to celebrate the end of a relationship, keep those celebrations private and offline.
Yes, Social Media is Admissible Evidence
Videos about divorce have been popular on TikTok since at least 2019. Before TikTok, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, and other social media platforms all had their moment of being the go-to place for life announcements.
One change is that, as a video platform, the context of videos shared on TikTok can be harder to hide. The written word or a single photo may be misconstrued, but a video can be harder to dismiss.
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